Laughing Through Midlife with Cannabis, Chaos & Courage | So Proud to Live

In this post-holiday episode, Queenie and TT ease their way out of Christmas and toward the New Year with warmth, humor, and perspective. They reflect on family gatherings, traditions, grief, nostalgia, and the strange emotional whiplash that follows the holidays—when the house empties, the cookies remain, and memories linger.

The Queens check in on what they’ve consumed, share laughter over matching dog pajamas, holiday indulgences, and the realities of midlife bodies, then move into cannabis news from across the country, highlighting the inconsistencies and absurdities of state laws.

The episode features original AI-assisted music, including a Closet Disco Queen Musical Interlude, recurring segments like Did This Happen Stoned or Is It Kaka?, and the first F*** It List entry of the new year: letting go of things you simply cannot control.

Thoughtful, funny, and deeply human.

Long-Form Show Notes

• Post-Christmas reflections and easing into the New Year
• Family traditions, loss, nostalgia, and honoring loved ones
• The quiet after the holidays—and what lingers
• What Queenie & TT consumed today
• Holiday indulgence, cookies, chocolate, and giving yourself grace
• Health oddities: humming, fart walks, digestion, and ancient wisdom
• Cannabis news: inconsistent laws, decriminalization myths, and state-by-state absurdities
• Consumption lounges and what may be coming next
• Game: Did This Happen Stoned or Is It Kaka?
• The F* It List:** Saying f*** it to things you can’t control
• Midlife boundaries, comparison, comfort, and choosing yourself
• Closing reflections on time, priorities, and being proud to still be here

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Hello Queenie. Happy holidays. Here we are post Xmas. Post Xmas and coming up on New Year's. It's New Year's Eve's Eve's Eve's Eve. Eve's Eve's Eve's Eve. it's just two days. A couple days from here. Three days. The Eve is Tuesday night though. Wednesday. it's Wednesday. New Year's is on Thursday? like Christmas was. Okay, gotcha.

Yeah, it's like, I haven't heard anybody talking about New Year's. Well, we made plans with Dyes and Rich that came for Christmas dinner. It was lovely. And we said, what are you doing? They're like, never do anything for dinner. So we're going to do something. I don't know what. probably be home by nine. Well, it's interesting because Lauren saw that I guess there's a hockey game on New Year's Eve. and it's a really heavily discounted price that we might do that. But it's like it's in the afternoon. Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. We can't.

We might go to dinner, you know, go to a Chinese restaurant or something. Who knows? But yeah, that'll be our big night out. Ooh, big night out on the city. So how was your Christmas? it was lovely. My Christmas was lovely. The boys were here and we got to see my daughter that evening and her crew. And it was just, it was lovely. We had an extra dog in the house. We had lots of people and now everybody's gone. Joe and Blake and the dog left this morning and it's like, and

We're all kind of like moping a little, but also going, Like it's a bittersweet, it was Charlie's gone already. He left Friday because Lisa's birthday is today. So he wanted to be back and they, celebrated it last night. Um, I guess they had a really nice party. said, uh, house was decorated in nineties themed. I was like, nineties thing. That was like,

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Are we going back to the gay old 90s? No, we're going back to the 1990s because that's when they were growing up. That's retro for them. It's like us going back to the 50s. know. I was like, what did you possibly have? I was like, well, that was my mother's entire...

was 90s themes, so maybe they had, you know, like, and country, you know. My goodness. Yeah. Wow. Yeah. Little drool twins. Who knows? Yeah. But yes, they celebrated her birthday yesterday. We have a bunch of stuff to mail to him. One of the things I did was I, when I was going through my mom's stuff, I picked out some things for each of my children and their significant others.

and wrapped them up and gave them to them from Nanny and Poppy. And like one of them was my son really was has been enamored with the space program since he was a little kid, you know. And it was a time magazine with man walks on the moon, you know, cover of the astronauts. Yeah. So that was that was kind of fun to give him. He was very excited about that. And then that's very cool. Gave my other son and his his husband a vintage ice bucket with eight.

They were like gold and black, know, that plastic and stuff. So that was kind of cool because they entertain a lot. Yeah. And you know, it's just so fun to do that and have her presence there, you know, with us because it's our first Christmas without her. So it was a way to kind of celebrate her and kind of make that connection. So that was fun. yesterday we went to the Arboretum, not the Arboretum.

The Ulbrich Gardens, have a beautiful, beautiful indoor greenhouse type thing, know? And botanical gardens. And it was warm and it was humid and it, you know, all the birds and all that kind of stuff. And then there was also a train model train show there. So we went to that and that was kind of fun. Very different. Alan would have loved that. That's what Rich said. That's what Honey said. Yeah.

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But these were big ones. were. the HL ones? Yeah. Whatever gauge. Big ass trains. you could tell it was so cute that there were these three men sitting off to the side. They were the engineers, apparently, but you could tell they were just having this very intense conversation about their trains. And at one point there was an issue with one of the trains and he had to get up and do some sort of.

finagling. Repair. was, it was really, it was fun. It was good to get out of the house because we hadn't, hadn't actually, I think I was in my pajamas for like three days straight. wow. But I do have pictures of both dogs in matching jammies. good. I need to see those, know. Yes, yes. It's very cute. So anyway, it was lovely. We had a nice dinner. It just was, it was family time. That's the best thing about, about the holiday. How was yours?

I know you had a smaller holiday than usual. more restrained than usual. we did get to see the girly girls before we Dan actually brought them to Paul. So they stopped over to make fruit salad. They've become key in the process. They've learned the recipe. So they wanted to they were the ones hounding.

You know, they wanted to come. they, they came and they baked some more while they were here and then off they went. that was important for them to have that time with you. That's their usual thing. Yep. So that was a plus. And we took my mom out to eat on Christmas. Nice. We went to the cheesecake factory. Did you have a nice time? I, I believe she did. We, had

lovely meal. mean, I've never had a bad meal there. mean, just the consistency. it's amazing. And the food is very, very good. Very fresh and tasty and presented nicely. And they were they were hopping, they were still quite busy. Even though we had reservations at 4.15. my goodness, we're old. I figured I was going to grab her before she got settled.

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from her program and it was either that or eight o'clock. That's too late. Yeah. Yeah. Much too late. Plus, it didn't snow. No, it didn't snow Christmas Eve. So the weather was fine. And then Christmas was pretty low key until, you know, we had to over to Megan's and cooked a lovely prime rib with all the fixings. Had a nice time with Sean and Lex and Megan and Ryan and my mom. Good. Good. Really nice. Yeah.

Yeah, it's very, nice. You had a Christmas or like mine without any kids. It's pretty much how it's here. Although I did get to just today. I saw a little video of Zaden opening his presents. Oh yeah. Really fun to see. Yeah. Oh, that's good. Yeah. That's a nice. It's a nice. Yeah. It was very low key in terms of gift giving and you know, all that kind of stuff. We just kept it simple this year, which is a good thing.

If you recall, my gift to the family was, or our gift to the family was the trip to New York. So we, know, Dan and I are not giving, giving anything and we're really not exchanging anything or doing anything until next weekend when we can all be together. So Lauren's in-laws were in town for the holidays. were? Yeah. So, well, some of them were. right. Okay. Right. Right. Yeah. Yeah. So I haven't seen them yet.

So yeah, but my cousins, Betsy and Colleen made a point to come down and visit my mom. that's so sweet. What day was it? I don't even, you know, bad me. One day last week. we met up with them. I think it was Sunday, last Sunday, and they brought cookies and such for her and subs. So we had lunch together. It was very nice. was very, nice. And then last, no, not last night.

the night before. See, everything is merging. Sharon who lives in Virginia, she and her husband flew into town for a wedding and they figured they were two miles from my mom's house. they stopped in? She and David and Carl. So we got pizza and that was the night we got all the snow. So I pizza ahead of time. we were trying to, you know,

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Let's move things along. Right, right, right. It was great to see them. really, I mean, they're just, they're so sweet. Dave came in with a lovely floral arrangement for her and cheesecake and they, it was just so nice for them to just take their time out to do that. Yeah. So sweet. It meant a lot to her. Well, they love your mom like you love NK, you know? Like their mom. Yeah. Can't believe she's gone two years.

doesn't seem possible at all. It was just great to see them. I'm glad you guys had a nice time and you still have some more to come. Our Closet Disco Queen podcast deals with legal adult cannabis use and is intended for entertainment purposes only for those 21 and older.

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Now, did you get matching JJ's for Rich and the dog or just the dog? me, yeah. three of do we have a photo of the whole family? No, no. Now come on, that was the whole reason behind the whole thing so I could be entertained. The dogs didn't get here though until, I don't know if it was Christmas night or the day after Christmas night, but it was, they were very late. I think they ended up going back to China and then back to the U.S. I don't know, I kept tracking them. like, I didn't want be here. But what was cute was that the one that didn't fit my dog,

sit. It was tight, but we squeezed the dog into it. So the two of them, okay, they were matching there. have to stop you right there. Could have sworn when you said the dogs didn't get here yet. They were coming from China and I was looking and thinking the dogs doing in China. Okay, this brings us we're why we're wait, Joe's dog came with them. They weren't here and then you know what, so then I caught up.

And realized you were talking about the jammies. The jammies, the drugs, jammies. right, right. was not Just took a second. That's okay. yep, yep. Half a beat. I there eventually. this brings us to what have you consumed today? Because it's working pretty well.

This morning started my routine coffee's nice, but nicer with some good old green gummy bears dancing brownies in a tray But tender asking what you had today What have you consumed today? A cookie a gummy or a potent J. Did you basically?

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I am enjoying a pre-rolled joint. It's a hybrid purple Voodoo. Voodoo? Why you have this a couple weeks ago? Yes, this is still the same. Same joint? Pack, Pack Edge from Ruby. Ruby Farms. Cool. Well, I'm having one of my hummies. Hummy, hummy, hummy. Hummy. Pink Lemonade? No. No. Lemonade were the other ones. was the other thing. That was the Sativa one. This is Indica. Indica? Indica.

Good day.

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Indica was indicated. And I'm also enjoying here and there this organic dark chocolate 80 % Panama extra dark that I got in my stocking from Santa. Very nice. quite yummy. I do love the dark chocolate. Yummy, yummy, yummy. So I am consuming and consuming. Well, that's what it's all about. It's all about consuming. Consumption. I live in a consumer society. My cookie consumption has...

has been ongoing. I decided this morning that it was time for the cookies to be gone. So I ate like five of them for breakfast. That's one way of doing it. That's one way of sticking to it. I was thinking I started off with a bang.

I toss them in the What way to do it? But they're too good. just can't. I can't We've got to stop this now. Well, I give you, well, they're gone now. Now they're gone. There's always door dash. Well, I also have this chocolate and I got some Reese's peanut butter cups in my stocking. boy. Yeah. And so the idea that I was going to lose a few pounds before going to Dominican, I have gained a few pounds. So yeah, whatever. girl, girl. Whatever.

Yeah, not happening, not around the holidays. Right now it's silly to think that it could. Give yourself a little grace.

The rush rush rush of the holidays flew, coats disappeared, the silence grew, chairs slid back, the lights went low, only crumbs still know the show.

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Family gone, friends retreated In box quiet, house defeated But cookies stayed brave and bold Snacks still standing uncontrolled We packed the lights, the jokes, the cheer Folded laughter into the year Took the memories sweet and true And something extra round us too

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We carry on what mattered most, the hugs, the laughs, the final toast. No regrets, no need to quip, just lighter hearts and heavier hips.

Keeping in line with our focus on weird things you can do to promote good health, like humming. I eat the humming. I love the humming. I do enjoy the humming. I found another, I saw another article. Please tell. It's a little different than humming. It focuses on another sound, I suppose you could call it. It's, you should start taking fart walks. Fart walks. Okay. After you eat.

Yes, a brisk walk taken immediately after eating. after walking, right after meals improves digestion, reduces bloating, supports weight management, and even benefits mental and brain health. Okay. The farting is a feature, not a bug. Okay. All right. So, and I guess. And it's a good thing. Yes. And Benjamin Franklin was a proponent of farting. He didn't want people to trap the gas indoors.

take it outside and move your body. Well, there you go. Yeah. My dad used to say it's better to fart and bear the shame than not to fart and bear the pain. It's true. Yeah. That's true. So that's not a healthy thing is to, you know, that's not to hold that in. So it jumpstarts your digestion. So it is the body is meant to do this folks. So, but it can also support. is one of those other things that, you know, there's a stigma about. Yeah. go and take it. Some societies where

It's actually considered a compliment to the chef. Oh no, that's burping, that farting. Still, you would think. Here's a Chinese proverb. If you take 100 steps after eating, you'll live to 99. All right. So there you go. Ancient wisdom. Especially during these times of eating a lot. Oh my goodness. Yes. So just let it rip, There's a lot of... Wicked tickle. Farting is good for you. Farting is good for you. It's really, you don't want to keep that...

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foul gaseous odor in. want it out? Right. It's a byproduct. Let it go. Let it go. Yes. Yes. It's just how our bodies work. Right. And you're not doing anybody any favors by trying to hold those puppies in. My son the other day cleared the room. boy. Yeah. You got to get people props for that. Wow. Anybody ask him if he was feeling okay? No, it's just kind of a thing.

rotting from the inside out. Good God Almighty. So.

What's the latest, but bus?

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TT tell me the news where is it legal no one knows

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Listen to T. Tell me the news, where is it legal?

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Titi, do you have a story for us? I do have a story for us. Just kind of interesting that in 2025, these things are still happening. Cannabis allowed in national parks. We've talked about that and you had your lovely Statue of Liberty experience. Louisiana, this is ridiculous, calls some cannabis offenses decriminalized, but people still get criminal records for possession. So...

It doesn't prevent legal consequences to say it's decriminalized. It just kind of sounds better. but what does it do then? Nothing, nothing. just makes it seem like. Well, you won't be sent to jail maybe. Well, no, well, you can get criminal records. So whatever, you know, that whether that means jail timer, if you, you know, cop a plea and don't have to do jail time and just do community service or whatever, it's still on your record. You know what I mean? So it does nothing.

decriminate. They're not. The point is they're not decriminalizing it. They're still criminalizing it, but they're calling it decriminalization. Was this a recent, recent? No. Well, it's just that it's still happening in 2025, even though so many states are moving forward with legalization. Here, this one's interesting. This one's interesting. Massachusetts dispensaries can't sell t-shirts, stickers or any promotional items with branded

cannabis information on it, which is really kind of weird. That's in Massachusetts. I'm thinking now because we've been in plenty of shops. So now that you say that it's they're all branded to the shop to the shop, right, right. And in Nevada.

It includes specific font requirements for advertising. So companies can't use italic fonts and they have to stick to approved typefaces and sizes. I'm pretty sure that's probably existent in New York. You think? wouldn't be surprised. But that's not true for alcohol or tobacco. it seems... Of course not. know, have to make all, you know, campus providers jump through hoops. Yep. Now here's another weird one. law requires commercial cannabis transport only on paved public roads.

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roads. So if you're out, you know, if you've got a farm out in the middle of nowhere, and there's not a paved public road, you know, because you've got a dirt road going into your farm or whatever, or it's just not a public road, it's private, it could be paved, but you're breaking the law. to get your product to market. Isn't that weird? Well, I'm sure there are lot of maybe laws that are still on the books that

make no sense right now because things haven't made any sense for the longest time. So there's still, mean, even I was surprised that some of the more progressive states like California and Massachusetts having these silly, silly things, even in some states, small amounts of cannabis possession can mean years in prison. And like Texas can jail someone for a joint while New Mexico, which is right next door, sells the product legally.

Wow. dispensary. it's just crazy. It hurts people. hurts businesses. We just need to try and get everybody on the same page. Yeah. Yeah. So anyway, I just thought I'd draw attention to those crazy things happening in this country. Well, mentioning Massachusetts, it's my understanding that they're beginning to operationalize their consumption lounges. guess the regulations have been.

submitted or approved. Now people know what the, parameters are. that'd be interesting. There's, that should be available perhaps by August when we're there. we'll have to check that out. Yeah. And I had seen that Provincetown was identified as one of the sites. Cool. Yeah. We're in. Whether that's one place. don't know.

Or an existing dispensary maybe branching out or maybe I don't really know what their plan is or what. So that means are smoking and consumption. Any consumption. Cool. Yeah. We'll keep, we'll keep an eye on that too. Because at some point a consumption lounges are on the docket here in New York. They've been approved. Towns had to say either say yay or nay.

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So yeah, we'll see how it goes. I haven't seen anything.

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If I That Ikea shelf straight as the sky rewired my router don't ask me why track down my ex's new alibi ate three meals and learned to cry guess what I Could have done this if I

you

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system

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The socks I thought I disowned Fixed the faucet, cleaned my phone Gave deep advice in a perfect tone Voted twice, no? Just groaned still I could've done this if stoned

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It's the segment where your logic shines Just as I was in a little off time Could've done this, could've done this

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TT are you ready to play your favorite game? I'm ready. Shudakuda, what is it? Are they cannabis related? Did something happen that was cannabis related to result in this situation? I'm ready to or nay? That's it. She's ready. She's ready. Yay or nay? Yay or nay? Yay or nay? Okay. Oh dear. See, I'd gotten into a very, as we get

moving along here, I've got more and more markings on the paper. They make no sense. what were my? sorry. was my? See, I shouldn't have done it hours ago. I think this is it. Okay. Yeah. All right. Okay. So I will present two situations. It's up to TT to decide was cannabis involved or not. Did this really happen? Or is this just kaka with a K?

Well, writing a college student called 911 at 2 a.m. to report an emergency. He was too high to drive to get snacks and considered it a life threatening situation. This badge talked him through ordering delivery instead. Is this something that happened or is this just some kaka? As a person prone to munchies, I can understand the.

desperation feeling of an emergency nature when the munchies come upon you. So, that part of it, believe, not quite sure. Let me think a minute. I'm not quite sure about dispatch encouraging them to order something and have it delivered. Although I could see a dispatcher with a sense of humor doing that saying, well, why don't you just order or dash dash. Yeah. Don't get in the car. Right. So I think, I think it's.

It could be true. think it could be a real situation that happens. T.T. believes that a college student actually did call 911 at 2 a.m. to request pretty much a police escort to get some munchies. Too high. Too high to do anything else. Well, that is... Oh, well, it was a good one. It was believable. Yes, that was a good one. Very believable. Especially with college students.

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Yes, I agree that if one is in the clenches of major munchies, it's a serious thing. Well, I also was thinking about a young woman who was a freshman in college. Okay. You're going to flip me in for something? No, no, no. was just she had the first time she ever got drunk and she was very scared. She did not like the feeling. And she called and asked to be taken to detox.

dear. Not thinking that it would be like being in a hospital with nurses to hold her hand. But I don't know what it her first time getting drunk. She did. Yeah, she didn't like the feeling. And so she thought she detox in the drunk tank, basically, with a citation because she was a freshman. And yeah, so that's why your your that's why your scenario did not seem possible to me.

Wow, wow, wow. Yikes. Just here. Just, boy. All right, so we'll move on to the next scenario. Okie dokie. We'll see. We'll see what you can do with this one. The Washington Post published a story about their staff members getting high to watch the movie Cats. Cats? Cats. That wouldn't be my first choice if I was told a movie to watch.

I don't want to watch something funny. Sean shared with us while we were at Radio City Music Hall that he did not want to sit on the end because when we did take him to see the show, was sitting on the end and a cat scared him because it was right next to him and just popped up. It was like eight or nine. And it's obviously stayed with him. He didn't want any audience surprises. No audience surprises for them.

Oh my god, that's her bryant. The man is keep your damn cats away from me God damn cats. Wow. I think that this is made up tt thinks that this is made up only because I can't imagine why you would pick cats to watch while you're stoned I don't know You'd prefer something a little more Funny funny, yeah

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Okay. Like, you know, watching South Park or something. don't know. I've never watched a complete episode of South Park ever. So good. So good. would love it. Well, that's something to tuck away. Yeah, for some binge. Yeah, there you go. when we're stoned, I'll come over, have a one overnight and we'll watch South Park all night. Sounds like a plan to me. Well, that's a great idea. However,

You are zero for zero. You're zero for two today. That actually did happen. watched Cats. Okay. went and watched it. So maybe they're a little older group, more mature. They wanted to see the costume. You know, there's a lot of, you know, like sinewy movements and- That's true. Yeah. It's a very visual- Yeah. And I guess if you're- It's a sensual show because they're always, they're rubbing against each other and-

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I guess I bombed this week. well, you're in all that sugar. can see you're at a step, you know, just like a half step behind. Yeah. Yeah. Oh my goodness. Well, yeah, there's always next year. That's right. This is the last.

Well, actually, this is last year. No, this is next year. is the new year. Oh, well, you're starting out on a bad foot. I am starting out in the Sorry to turn the tide so quickly. Really? Then that really sucks. You brought me up and you take me down. It's reality. Sorry. It's really what's going on. What can I say? start to the year. It's a bad start to the year.

We've got a list and it's getting long Petty to profound, what feels so wrong Sticky notes and middle-aged sass If it don't serve us it can kiss our ass

Fuck it, fix it, or forget it We're seasoned queens, don't regret it If it drains our soul, we'll our wit We file it under, hell no, skip it From bad bras to toxic friends We draw the line and tie the ends each week A gripe or hill to die on with Queenie and TT The fuck

It list lives on

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So Titi, what are we going to add to our growing fuck it list? Our growing fuck it list. what is the first entry of 2026? The first one, I think it's an important one. here we go. It's saying fuck it to things you can't control. Well, that is a wise fuck it. Isn't that a good one? That is a very good one. What brought this upon us? You know.

I think because I was feeling so stressed about what's happening in this country, looking back on the past year and all of the things that have taken place, that have taken away our liberties and are moving us in the wrong direction. And I thought, it doesn't do anybody any good for me to sit here and just have it going through my mind over and over and over again and fretting about it and worrying and feeling this sense of like, I'm not in my stomach.

I said, I cannot control this. It's important for me to be aware of it. But what I can control is if I contact my Congress people, I can control if I donate money to the ACLU, I can control, you know, those kinds of things that I can control. It doesn't do me or anyone any good to just continue to grind your gears. Right. Right. I can certainly appreciate that. And the other thing is worrying. I don't know what that was.

I don't know worrying what other people think you can't control what other people think. And what context in context of. Think about your view or think about the situation or think about exactly any of all in any of that. What, what, what did, know, how are people reacting to what I just said? What, you know, did I hurt someone's feelings? Did I, know, right. All that stuff, like worrying if my kids had a time or, know, just.

You know, everybody else's stuff. It's my responsibility as the host as the whatever to make sure everybody's happy. we were brought up to believe that in a field. Yeah, for sure. Yeah. So fuck it. But it also takes responsibility away from the adults that are our children. Yeah. That they have to be responsible for their own happiness. Right.

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They can't just rely on us. Well, the other thing is it's demeaning to them to think that they cannot create their own happiness that we have to orchestrate or be involved in any way. Yeah. So let's say, it to trying to control things that we can't control. then, and we'll also tack on the, know, we can't control what other people think. That's a big one too. no, we absolutely cannot. And to worry about.

worry about it beforehand, worry what are people going to think. And that also brings into it this whole thing, and maybe I'm making this more complex than I should, or maybe this is another week's, but not comparing ourselves to other people. Comparing ourselves, comparing what we have, how we look, all those kinds of things. I think that's important. That's an important thing to...

recognize and to be able to own. Like I do not care. I do not care. I want to look presentable. I want to look tidy and clean and you know, put together, but I don't worry about my goodness. Do I have makeup on? my goodness. Is this the latest fashion? my goodness. I'm not wearing heels. Well, those days are over for me folks. I can barely get in a flat shoe.

So those days are gone. So yeah, I'm going to choose comfort over function. Yes. Or function over fashion or whatever. But comfort is number one in there. I really don't care. And you know, worrying about what kind of car you drive and you know, none of that stuff seems to matter as you get older. It's not at all. Not a big deal. No, I'm doing things that are making me happy. Me, me, me. Like

I'm having fun planning what my kitchen's gonna look like. yeah, and I'm sure it's not gonna be probably most people it's probably not gonna be their taste but Not their kitchen. be yours. my kitchen. So I spend the time in that if you're lucky enough, you'll be invited in But I'll be invited for a delicious meal yummy yummy. So, you know, I I've it's for me me me me it's all about You can't control what they think and it doesn't

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It does not matter. And that's what every you know, when we come down to it, everything that we've mentioned so far comes down to it doesn't matter. But how much energy and time and mental and emotional space have we given this crap? Yeah, so much. It's been what we were conditioned to do throughout our lives. And, kind of falls in with that whole we talked once about that. It's almost like a movement. The let them you know, that phrase let them like people wanted.

Let's just let them, you know, like it's not, it's not mine to make, to have a comment about. It's not mine to make a decision about. Right. They can do what they want unless it's hurting someone else. Then I have a lot to say, but yes. You know, yes. I think, you know, that's part of being a good citizen too. You know, speaking up and exercising our whatever rights remain, to for free speech and

Well, and to make sure that we're not that everyone has them has those rights, you know, or failing miserably there We are even within our own borders. are yeah So it's but I think that was those were outstanding selections for this week tt and they're great reminders for us, know starting with starting this new year It doesn't mean you have to be callous or no rude or disregard. It's

putting yourself first sometimes. the other thing is, you know, I know, I know I talked about this a lot, but, it's true. don't know that now that's, um, no, the fact that we don't have, you know, our whole lives ahead of us anymore. And why would you so much of your limited time worrying about this stuff? We've got more time behind us than we do ahead. That is much.

truth. we really got to be mindful of that and not deliberate. Right, right. So I agree. Yep, yep. So spin your wheels about. There's no sense. Doesn't matter. It doesn't matter. It don't matter. Doesn't matter. Name that. I don't even know. Was that angry Alice? I think it was Alice. it might be. I think you're right. I'm pretty sure it was her.

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And she doesn't want to be called angry anymore. she die? I don't I think she might have. I think she might have this year. She didn't want to be called angry. So what were they calling her? I don't know, but I just picture her going, you motherfuckers shouldn't be calling me angry. Fred. She loved her Fred. Fred. Of course we're referring to our... Howard Our friends at the Howard Stern show. Our friends at the Howard Stern, our fellow broadcasters. They've been with us for the last...

40 years. Not quite now. 30. Probably 30, 35, something like that. Oh, I'd say 40. Was it? Because when Dan was traveling, he'd catch him downstate. And then he was that Channel 9 show we could get on the weekends. Okay. One of those New York stations. Part of our lives. Absolutely. Absolutely. So what's going on this week with

the new year coming or well, okay. oh yeah. I sent Lisa a picture of Lancelot Link's secret champ this morning and said, miss you. Do you remember Lancelot? Oh my God. I used to watch it. The lynches and we used to watch it with the lynches. For some reason it brings up memories of my cousin Timmy. Really? I don't even know if he was the one that was like crazy about Lancelot Link.

Oh my god, we were laughing about that kind of crap the other night, you know, skittle, skibble, skittle bowl. Oh yeah. The thing and Lance, Lance, what else? Oh my God. What else I just saw? just saw, what was it? Crooked, crooked fairy tales or broken? Yeah. With that fairy. Fractured fairy tales. Fractured fairy tales. Yeah.

So all that stuff's like popping up on Facebook on these nostalgia. Yeah. Well, that's yeah. It's you got to admit it's bizarre. It is. It's like now it's all now it's now we're and it's nostalgia and it's it's really old stuff. Like when I was giving my kids stuff from my parents, I said to Thomas those that I spoke it's from like the late fifties. It's pretty old. Wow. Yeah.

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Wow. might have been early 60s. Crazy. And like I gave Joe this book that was my parents, that was a gift to them from a woman. it was inscribed to them in 1966. Do I know the most fun couples I know? like that. 1966. Yep. Well, Bessie was just saying that the reason she became a math teacher is because she spent so much time watching my grandmother.

play canasta and race horse because it was four decks of cards. You had to be able to count and do quick math. she said that. how she developed her love of math. Wow. So interesting. Yeah. I was thinking that looking at my, you know, some cousins on Facebook, you know, like the one who does the seven fishes and, know, holding up an octopus in her.

I was just like, how could we end up not that Italian?

Hey, I know you've really bucked the odds. But it's, it's, yeah, it's fun to think about. Well, it's kind of, it's actually kind of sad to think about that there are things that I just won't ever know now that my mom has gone, but that there are people who might know some of it still. True. yeah, our family's kind of, I wish it was still like it used to be like way, way back when that there was a family historian, somebody whose job it was to, I mean, and I think at that point it was oral.

A lot of it was, Oral and oral. Yep. Well, I... To keep the family story. I out on Facebook on our family page, I'm looking for my grandmother's Bible, and it's wicked so far, so... And it's a busy time of the year, though, Yeah, it is. That's true. Yeah. I have prime suspects, though. I'll zero in. I know where to start. I know exactly where to I know who's got it. You can't escape me! How's Rich doing? Good. Good. I wonder if he's gonna get to his thing tomorrow morning.

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He hasn't had it. Boxing? Over a week, yeah, boxing. Does he like it? He loves it. He likes getting hit. No, he doesn't get hit. They don't do that. People with Parkinson's try to avoid head injuries. it sounded like the fun part. No, they train. They do boxing training. And then they also do this mental training. Like, it starts out with like making a gun and a peace sign.

and then switching fingers and doing it as fast as you can. And I am not very good at it as you can see. But then once you get the hang of that, you put in, you have to go through the alphabet and say women's names starting with the letter A while you're doing this thing. It's like exercise for your brain. So my son was my youngest was practicing that he's gotten really good at it. He's like, he challenged everyone to a contest and he was absolutely the best.

I don't think I could. Oh, it's hard. Mm-hmm. Well, I can't follow those things. can't, can't. Oh, God. God. Watching people doing like any dancing or gymnastics type things in gym, I couldn't follow. Oh, I know. I know. It's like, huh? I still don't know how to do the electric slide. Oh, God, no. Oh, You know, I did, I...

I did not have a problem with square dancing. don't know why. Me either. I like square dancing. think I liked it because I could do it. I could do it too. That didn't bother me at all, but anything I could dozey-doh with the best of them. Yeah, me too. Ho down. But, you know. But no, all those... The one dance I learned... Oh my gosh. The hokey pokey. I can do that. Well, I could do that. No. When we were in seventh or eighth grade, there was this song about the Cherokee Nation. They took the whole Cherokee Nation.

Yeah, and there was a dance that went along with it. I don't know who it was. It was kind of it was in the late 60s 67 68 Yeah, yeah, I was in yeah, we're in seventh and eighth grade. Yeah, so um anyway I remember being at a dance and learning how to do it at dance in Sand Creek Middle School or junior high and I learned how to do it and That's the only dance I could ever do besides, know, like the hokey pokey and square dance

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I can't do those line dances. I always thought it looked so fun doing those line dances, know, and stuff. There's a place here in Albany where you can learn how to salsa. Really? And it's you know, a lot of Oh, and bachata. But it's a I think a South American dance, but it looks like a line dance. But they just encourage the venues encourage people to show up and learn how to learn. Yeah, learn. It looks like fun. But it looked

No, not just two left feet. The problem is I've got way too many left feet. We're all going at the same time. Yeah. Different directions. So that's a problem. It's a problem. It's just that we were, that's not something we learned when we were young and it's too late. Too late now. never, I don't think I ever had. wait, I thought of another dance and I know you can do it too. The chicken dance. I can do the chicken dance. Yes, I can do the chicken dance. See now you're speaking my language.

Yeah, yeah, yeah. I can't do the Macarena. That's too many. No, can get through part of it. I can do the first part, but then I get all fucked up and then you got to go one way or the other. I'm like, right. And at the same time, do the rain and now at games at sporting events. yeah. Yeah, I'm sure I get a little confused by the behind that thing. I can't. I can't. can't.

I can't it just it's like it's too much. It's too much. Don't make me don't make me do it. I really would. I'd love to be able to sing, sing and dance and dance. Little dancing like tap dancing. Love to tap dance. Never had an interest in tap dancing. I tried to I tried. Or ballet. I tried to get encouraged at golf group to take tap dancing lessons in the

off season. I thought it would be fun if we all, you know, yeah, I had no takers. Bunch of babies. did you do it by yourself? You can do things by yourself. I know I can't. And you know what I think I'm going to do? I'm going to take an improv class. Great idea. I asked Megan if she would and she's like, no, you know, who might do it with you, Lauren? I do not see that at all. No, no. OK. No, it's pretty funny. She is funny, but I just I.

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I don't, I don't, we didn't stop anything. Did we? didn't stop it yet. didn't know. Here, let me, I'll stop it now. I'll click the stop button. well we'll say, well, you know what? Nevermind. What's the everybody knows the wrong tab. Well, let's say goodbye to everybody and we'll wish them a lovely start to the new year. Yes. And we'll see you in next week. Bye bye. Bye.

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After the meal we don't rush the night We take a stroll by candlelight A little homogenital glide Let nature whisper from inside